How Wet Is Too Wet?

As much as I love learning about the topics that I write about, I always find myself getting into trouble for voicing the information in my habitual dry, crude, straight to the point kind of way. So, don’t think this will be any different, because when it comes to vagina’s well I am going to tell you like it is, plus I love trouble ;)

In the last year, I have gotten several emails, one in particular that stated “I had to write about this topic.”  How wet is too wet? The simple answer is “I don’t know!” The truth is that there is no easy way to explain wetness (vaginal lubrication). Our vaginas are like an onion; there are multiple layers each one just as delicate and intricate as the other to make a beautiful yet complicated organ.

You can’t control how wet you get and honestly, I am not always sure what the big concern is, but you can control the health you provide your vagina. A healthy vagina has an acidic pH balance to fight off infections which is provided by bacteria naturally found in our nether regions. Just like saliva cleans and lubricates our mouths, our vaginas work in a similar way, secreting fluids on a regular basis.

All women have discharge, however the amount, the color, and smell vary from woman to woman. Normal discharge may appear clear, cloudy white, and/or yellowish when dry on clothing. Normal discharge can change in appearance and consistency for various reasons including menstrual cycle, hormonal changes, emotional issues, nutrition, medication, and sexual arousal.

Signs that may indicate an infection are: discharge with itching, rash or soreness, persistent increasing discharge, burning on skin during urination, white clumpy discharge (like cottage cheese), and grey/ white or yellow/green discharge with a foul odor. Please seek medical attention or advice, if you have any additional concerns or may be experiencing these symptoms.

During sexual arousal, a woman has an increase in vaginal wetness, especially during the arousal phase. This is due to changes in blood flow and the clitoris dilating, which allows the whole area to become flushed. This increase in wetness has many purposes, one of which is to facilitate penetration and protect the vaginal wall (too little wetness can lead to painful sex).

However, some women I have come to find out are very embarrassed of “how wet” they get. They have asked me if it is a problem and how to fix it. When there is an excessive amount of wetness women fear they will not feel as “tight” or that it feel like they are urinating (female ejaculation). Whatever the reason feeling vulnerable during sex is uncomfortable and sometimes even disheartening.

There is nothing to be embarrassed about, the wetness experienced is just part of your body enjoying the moment, but I understand that this is easier said than done, so here are a few helpful tips:

• This first one is not my favorite, but I have read that you can take an antihistamine. Be mindful to not use one that make you drowsy, but basically this medication dries everything up including your vagina and allergies.

• Place a towel under your body to absorb extra moisture, and you can also have a cloth nearby that you can use for quick clean ups. You can also place a waterproof pad under a towel for additional protection to the bed.

• There are also some creams that can help, but there is not much proof that they work.

• Change your diet to a more vegetarian lifestyle, the cows and your vagina will benefit!

• Finally, there is the Konov Principle, which is bringing a conscious awareness to you vagina and visualizes the optimum and healthy amount of wetness. Like meditation, it needs to be practiced daily to be felt fully.

The best advice I have thought is from me as someone who has been in that situation is that there is only one solution… enjoy the moment and build the sexual goddess that is inside of you.

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