Adult Sexual Behaviour

Is the glut of online porn turning us into a bunch of smut-snaffling perverts?

Lisa Byers wanted to know. Having studied sexually addictive Internet use as an undergrad, the Guelph University student is focusing her sociology/anthropology Masters thesis on what the rest of us plain old sexually curious folk are doing online. And, of course, whether there’s any truth to the “Triple A” theory — that the accessibility, affordability and anonymity of the Internet have made becoming a sexual deviant so much easier — that’s been popularized in most psychologically based studies on the subject.

“Most of the studies focus on the problematic use of sexual Internet content,” says Byers, who funded her undergraduate degree by working at a sex toy store in Brandon, Manitoba. “I wanted to move away from the stigmatized, problematic behaviour and just look at what people are doing online in general when it comes to using Sexually Explicit Material on the Internet, or SEMI.”

Byers came up with the term because porn seemed too limiting and negative. SEMI basically includes any online adult behaviour, from sending a dirty joke to sexual chatting, or viewing fist-fucking videos. .

Byers admits that the Internet has changed the way we access porn. Still, her research shows that greater access doesn’t automatically lead to greater consumption.

In fact, while 93.1 per cent of her 459 Internet survey respondents had received email advertising a porn site, only 7.4 per cent said they accessed Internet porn more than three times a week.

Disproving her own original hypothesis, Byers also discovered that people with more years’ experience using computers and the Internet aren’t accessing more porn either.

But it makes sense if you think about it, she says.

“The habits you had with [using or viewing] porn before the Internet are going to be repeated on the Internet, and having more access or more skill or years of experience doesn’t necessarily change that.”

Byers was also surprised to find that, while we still tend to think of non-Internet porn as mostly a guy thing, gender didn’t help predict whether or not someone accessed SEMI. Her theory is that because she conducted the survey via Internet, people feel more comfortable being honest.

“I think a lot more people are using porn than will ever admit in our day-to-day lives,” Byers says. “But because it’s still a stigmatized, closeted behaviour, it doesn’t come up in everyday conversation — especially for women.”

Women are especially more engaged in sexually explicit chatting with 29.2 per cent admitting they had initiated it online. “I think women are more comfortable initiating online because they feel anonymous and safer.” Byers figures more women are into communicating and interaction than are into visual stimuli.

Just more theories, of course. Still, it’s refreshing to have someone looking at online porn from a less alarmist perspective, and avoiding the prevalent fear in our culture that the Internet is increasing sexual addiction, breaking up marriages, and turning us all into creepy perverts.

Byers admits all this happens. “If you’re prone to addictive behaviour, then yes, you could be in trouble, and certain personalities will be susceptible,” says Byers. “There is going to be a percentage of society at that end of the continuum engaging in illegal or extreme behaviour, but I’m interested in what people are doing in general because I think there are more people like that online than there are the sexual predators or law breakers.”

And, sure, Byers says, the Internet has lowered the bar in terms of what’s “acceptable.”

When Byers first started working at the sex shop, for example, anal sex was probably the biggest taboo in the material they carried. Four years later, fisting and other extreme material was becoming more and more the norm and she credits the Internet at least in part for this.

“I think some people are inclined toward always seeking out further and further extremes and the Internet is perfect for that,” says Byers.

Still Byers can’t deny that the anonymity of the Internet does make us all ballsier. “For example, someone who would never tell you a dirty joke in person might [do so] online,” she says.

In fact, 63.5 per cent of her participants admitted they’ve sent a dirty joke or sexually explicit email.

But merely sending a dirty joke doesn’t mean you’ll also be into online images of women fucking horses. It’s more likely the person is just test-driving her inner naughty girl (or raunchy boy). In this way, accessing adult material online can sometimes be a healthy experience.

“Maybe you were too shy to go to the store and rent a dirty movie. This gives you a chance to explore your sexuality in a way you weren’t able to before,” Byers explains.

It certainly doesn’t mean you’ll become a sex addict.

Indeed, for most of us, accessing more and more out there porn is more about human curiousity than actually changing our sexual behaviour. I might hear about fisting and can see it online to satisfy my curiosity, but that doesn’t necessarily make me want to go out and shove my arm up someone’s butt

Curiosity, in fact, was one of the most common reasons the survey respondents gave Byers for using SEMI along with “entertainment,” and “to spice up their life with their partner.”

Funny, most the same reasons most of us consume non-Internet porn.

The biggest problem, says Byers, is that while we’re exposed to more and more extreme material, the gap between what’s out there and what people are comfortable talking about is huge. So the content is given no context and there are few outlets to talk about porn use openly and honestly.

Even Byers had to make things up as she went along because the people on her thesis committee just didn’t have any expertise in this area.

Then again, they were probably just to embarrassed to admit it.

Casual Sex

Casual sex is like a junk food diet. It tastes good for awhile, but it leaves you empty. A junk food diet doesn’t nourish you and in the long run depletes your stores of nutrients.

Casual sex is akin to a junk food diet in that it is something you can get away with easier when you are young. This holds true for males as well as females. Sex feeds the soul, where food feeds the body. If you search many different cultures in remote corners of the world sex isn’t as casual as it seems.

They recognize that sex is something to celebrate, but also something that bonds male and female together. Survival depends on the binding of the male and female elements to foster a cohesive group. From a western standpoint it looks like they just do what they want. Sex isn’t as open ended as it seems the young get the freedom to explore in many less advanced societies. However, the bonding that comes about in time is taken seriously according to their social standards.

In America as well as some other industrialized societies, it seems that there are lots of taboos in place that try to limit sexual freedom. The one thing we have is plenty of sexual freedom. The one thing we don’t have is a sense of the connection sex has to our very being.

Sex should be a bonding experience on more levels than just physical. This is something that isn’t going to resonate with young people as well, because the drive is so strong. Exploring is natural. When we teach sex we are usually focused on the worry list, from STDs to pregnancy concerns. As real as these are we get stuck on hold when we look for alternate approaches.

The demystifying of sex means that the right questions are needed. Anyone with foresight knows that sex leads and is led by a need for closeness, acceptance, feeling valued, and feeling connected to someone. Sex isn’t confined to marriage, but it is should be confined to our sense of self worth, intimacy and our relevance for the other person.

Sex gets a shafting by being used as just a release of tension, when it becomes more everyone gains from it. Sex is definitely a union of two people, and that is where you thrive. Healthy sex is when all the elements come into play.

What Is Sexual Addiction

Almost everyone enjoys sex and masturbation. Most people enjoy it a lot. It is a natural phenomenon, right? Yes. But…

Is it possible to have an addiction to what seems so natural and instinctual? Many have made strong comparisons and logical correlations between the similarities of sexual addiction, alcoholism, drug addiction, and other verified addictions. They are the same in some ways and different in others.

First, I think it is important to define an “addiction” before describing a sexual addiction. Addiction in the context of this page will be defined as “a disorder that constitutes a repeated behavior which has caused negative consequences even though the individual has paradoxically made significant effort to quit or reduce the behavior”.

I agree that sounds too much like somebody with a degree in psychology.

Therefore, I think I will forget my educational background for a moment and describe an addiction in more universal terms. An Addiction is like “a problem where you know the solution is to stop doing it so much, but you just can’t stop for some unknown reason”.

I think at this point, it is important to say who is not sexually “addicted”. Frequently people may ask us if they are addicted to masturbation or sex. They will say something like: “I masturbate 3 times a day, am I addicted?” or they will say: “I have had sex with a different girl 35 times in the past month, am I a sex addict?” The answer to questions like this is always “I don’t know”.

Based on the limited amount of information above, it is impossible to say if the individual has an addiction or if they should begin to seek treatment. A young person that masturbates three times a day because they are often sexually aroused and/or has spontaneous erections is probably not an addict. This is especially a major concern among young men and women.

Changes are, their masturbation behavior will level out on its own in the future. Hormonal changes that cause an increase in sexual desire happen periodically throughout a person’s life, but especially so when young.

The same may be true for a recently divorced person who is “seriously looking” to settle down again but has not found the right person. The point being made here is: There are reasons why someone may be having frequent masturbatory or sexual experiences which are not necessarily related to a sexual addiction.

It is also important to mention that addiction is not necessarily related to quantity. Contrary to popular belief, quantity is not the most prominent factor in defining individuals who have addictions. The most prominent factor is what the results are from the addict’s behavior.

For example, take the case of two beer drinkers. Drinker # 1 drinks 12 beers a day. Drinker # 2 only drinks 10 beers per day.

Drinker # 1 was recently informed by his doctor that he has high blood pressure and may have a swollen liver. Drinker # 1 stops drinking. His blood pressure is manageable and his tender liver heals.

Drinker # 2 is told by his doctor that he has high blood pressure and a swollen liver. Drinker # 2 has also been arrested three times for driving while under the influence of alcohol and once for public drunkenness. Drinker # 2 tries to stop drinking when his doctor tells him he must do so for his health. Drinker # 2 continues to drink, continues to get in trouble with the police, and continues his poor health habits.

He may even start to drink more to ease the stress that all his drinking has caused. Drinker # 2 always drank less than # 1 but cannot quit drinking even though he has seriously tried to cut down or quit many times. Both drinkers used (and abused) alcohol, but Drinker # 2 is more likely to have actual alcoholism.

Some parallels can be drawn from the drinkers above when examining the life of someone with a sexual addiction. For example, Individual # 1 masturbates to ejaculation 3 to 4 times per day. Individual # 2 masturbates to ejaculation or has sex once per day (sometimes once every other day). Individual #1 is 18 years old and is quite limited when it comes to hobbies, sports, or school/work/religious/community involvement because of his remote location.

Individual # 2 has access to public transportation, cuts school, and takes days off from his job to go to adult theatres where he spends countless hours of his time engaged in viewing and obtaining erotic material. He spends considerable time thinking erotic thoughts and fondling his penis.

However, he only fully masturbates to ejaculation about once a day. He also is willing to have anonymous sex with any willing partner at any time. His fiancee found his stash of pornography and questioned his commitment to the relationship.

She often inquires where he has been when he is on long pornographic binges. This has affected several of his relationships in the past. Individual # 2 also often worries about the possibility of having contracted a Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD).

A lot of the time, he is is in denial and assumes that he is 100% immune to any disease because he usually wears condoms. Individual # 2 was invited to a one week vacation by his fiancee and her parents.

He did want to go deep down inside, but he knew he would not be able to get free for sex and masturbation while on the vacation so he declined to go. Both individuals used (and over-used) their sexuality, but individual # 2 is more likely to have a sexual addiction.

Religion & Masturbation

Some conservative religious idealists will still say that masturbation is a sin. However, the reality of this statement must be seriously questioned because the words “masturbation” or “self-gratification” are not mentioned in the Bible at all.

Interestingly, one religious group went as far as to publish a Guide to Self-Control which is a list of strict instructions for quitting masturbation. It seems as though they have taken quite a bit of liberty in interpreting the word of God in their literature.

If it were a sin, couldn’t we assume that there would be stories, parables, or at least a statement against the practice of masturbation?

Wouldn’t there be dialogue about young or unmarried men being castrated or at least reprimanded for stimulating themselves? If God did not want us to masturbate, wouldn’t it have been the 11th commandment?

After all, the practice is very common. Why would any religious person dictate restrictive rules against masturbation? After careful study of the situation, the question is no longer whether or not it is against the doctrine, but rather the question becomes, why would anyone even suggest that it is? Several suspicions arise as to how the anti-masturbation ideals began.

(1) It could have started with parents who wanted to keep their children young and innocent. Keep in mind that for a parent, the thought of their own child acquiring a sexual identity and masturbating can be quite repulsive.

After all, isn’t the vice-versa thought of our parents having sex or masturbating awful to us? It’s because of  the generation gap.

Some parents, teachers, ministers, priests, etc. would like to keep their children young, innocent, and impressionable instead of letting them explore and experiment with sexual sensations on their bodies. Masturbating to ejaculation is a sure sign of having a sexuality, growing up, and having an adult body.

Often adults may assume a child of 10 – 12 years old is far too young to be experiencing such sensations. For such a young boy or girl to have a sex drive may be seen as nothing less than perverse. However, biologically speaking, this is the age at which normal hormonal changes in the body begin to happen which initiate the onset of puberty.

(2) Another possibility is that some high ranking religious leaders may have wanted to keep their followers feeling guilty as to encourage their frequent return to church to beg forgiveness. Not only do they keep coming back to church, but they also keep bringing their money to church for the offering baskets.

In reality, the more guilt there is from masturbation, the more money they make. Masturbation is not something a normal guy can just easily quit. Few men have been successful at quitting. Even among priests themselves, there is masturbation.

People have been known to suffer a great deal from trying to quit. The male body was designed to ejaculate on a regular basis. Funk and Wagnals Family Medical Guide says that regular release of semen is important for a healthy prostate.

Spiritually speaking, we should not be concerned about if or how much we masturbate. The act itself is a normal bodily function like any other. Trying to quit is impossible because we will no doubt eventually masturbate in our sleep.

Rather than working on trying to quit, we should try to examine more carefully what we are thinking about while doing it. If we are experiencing profound lust for another human being while masturbating, of course it is a source of guilt.

Fantasizing about people that we can not, should not, or will not be carrying on sexual relations with is damaging to our emotional spirituality. Having said that, I must mention that there is a link at the end of this story to the main page (Confidential Biography). I certainly can not argue that all the sexual things on the main site are acceptable. In fact, they are just the raw truth, not necessarily things that I advocate.

I feel it is much more of  a healthy practice if I concentrate on the sensation of my own body rather than sex fantasy or greedy self-indulgence.

But wait, isn’t masturbation all about self-indulgence? True, often the self is erotic and sensual but it all depends on our viewpoint of the situation to determine if it is self-indulgent. Many guys feel pride that they are male and find this to be quite an auto-erotic masturbatory thought. Feeling prideful to have a penis and a male body is a very powerful, self-gratifying thought.

It is the pride that gets us into trouble. Pride leads us to the road of the sin. I know pride does not allow me to serve the Power greater than myself and it certainly doesn’t allow me to follow God’s will. Self-pride does not take God into consideration. When we have pride for something, it is assuming that it is our own creation, our own sensation, and our own experience, having nothing to do with God.

Instead of being full of pride, why not consider gratitude? Being grateful for a male body and the sexual sensations that go along with it brings in a whole new realm of spiritual experience.

We then acknowledge it as gift and expressing thanks for it. It is no longer a selfish, self-gratifying , secretive act.

When we are grateful for something, it includes another entity besides ourself  because there is the fact that we are grateful to someone for it. To whom should we be grateful for this gift?  God, of course.

Male Anatomy Of The Reproductive System

Definitions are documented in a counter-clockwise order (from bladder to sigmoid colon).

Bladder: A sac-like organ composed of musculomembranous fiber. Located in the pelvis, the bladder stores urine until it is excreted. The urine is passed to the bladder through ureters from each kidney in peristaltic (contractile) waves. During excretion, the urethral orifice below the bladder is opened and the urine passes through the urethra.

Though the urge to void the bladder of urine generally occurs when it has about 250 – 300 milliliters (8 – 10 ounces) in it, the average human bladder can hold almost twice this amount.

An average human excretes one to two quarts (or one to two liters) of urine per day, though this is greatly dependent upon the health, diet, and level of activity of the adult. Ingested water usually is excreted within four hours of ingestion. Urine is usually clear or yellow, though this depends upon the diet and health of the individual.

Urine has a distinct, ammonia-like smell which is primarily due to the nitrogenous wastes which make up 5 % of the urine. The chief constituent of these wastes is urea, though ammonia, uric acid, creatinine, and a host of other waste products also are present.

Pubic Bone: Part of the skeletal system undreneath the pubic hair area, above the penis.

Penis: The male sex organ that carries urine and semen from the male body, which is capable of erection by becoming engorged with blood during sexual arousal to make it more firm for penetration in sexual intercourse. The penis supports the urethra as it passes from the seminal vesicles, through the corpora cavernosa, to the meatus (opening) at the glans (head) of the penis.

Corpora Cavernosa: Made of spongy tissue which fill with blood during sexual arousal. As the blood fills these tissues, the penis begins to expand and become firm, and this condition is known as an erection. The erection facilitates the ejaculational transport of the semen to the female’s vagina.

Penis Glans: Enlarged tip, or head, of the penis. In its apex is the vertical meatus, or opening, of the urethra.

Foreskin: A loose fold of skin, or prepuce, which covers the glans of the penis. It is often removed from infants for sanitary and religious reasons. The removal of the foreskin is known as circumcision.

Urethra: A tube-like vessel that serves to transport urine and semen, conveying it from the bladder or testes through the penis.

Urethral Opening: The penis opening, or meatus.

Scrotum: The protective skin pouch which contains the testes (testicles). It is located in the groin, on the outside of the abdominal cavity. This positioning allows the testicles to remain at a temperature slightly below body temperature, a critical condition in the development of viable sperm. After puberty, the hair begins to grow on the scrotum and nearby skin. This pubic hair remains for the rest of the adult life.

Testis: (also known as testicle), The main reproductive organ of the male anatomy. They are responsible for generating the sperm cells (spermatozoa) and passing them into the epididymides for storage until ejaculation. The testes are slightly elongated globes, about 1 inch (2.5 cm) wide by 1 1/2 inches (3.8 cm) long. The testes are located outside of the abdominal cavity in a protective pouch of skin called the scrotum. This positioning allows them to remain slightly below body temperature, which is critical for the development of viable spermatozoa.

Epididymides: (plural for epididymis) Narrow, elongated storage vessels for newly generated sperm. They are located within the scrotum, adjoining each testicle. Sperm remain in the cord-like epididymides until ejaculation, at which time they eject them into the vas deferens.

Vas Deferens: The narrow continuation of the canal of the epididymis, serving to transport the sperm cells from the epididymis, up through a canal toward the bladder, and then to the ejaculatory duct.

Anus: The opening where solid waste is excreted.

Cowper’s Glands: (also known as bulbourethral glands) The two pea-sized lobes connecting to the side of the urethra, responsible for secreting a lubricant into the urethra to facilitate the transport of sperm during ejaculation. This lubricant is frequently referred to as “pre-cum” in English slang.

Prostate Gland: Responsible for secreting a fluid into the urethra during sexual arousal. This alkaline fluid comes before the sperm cells and helps reduce the acidity of vaginal secretions, so that the sperm cells are not destroyed by this acidity. The prostate gland is about 1 1/2 inches in diameter.

Ejaculatory Duct: Short tubule located just above the prostate gland. It is formed by the connection of the vas deferens and the seminal vesicles, and serves to transport sperm through the prostate gland and into the urethra.

Seminal Vesicles: Responsible for secreting a fluid component of semen as the sperm cells pass through the vas deferens. The two vesicles resemble small, bulbous pouches and are located just above the prostate gland.

Rectum: One of the last portions of the large intestine, which extends from the sigmoid colon to join the anal canal. Fecal wastes are stored in the rectum until they are expelled by passing them through the anal canal and out of the anus. The rectum is about five inches long,

Sigmoid Colon (spelled as sigismoid colon above): Connects the end of the descending colon to the rectum. The rectal and sigmoid sections are often referred to as the rectosigmoid.

Pro’s & Con’s Of Long Sex Duration Gap?

Do you often indulge in extended sex sessions and a little bit worried about whether it involves any disadvantage? There is no need to get tensed as you aren’t alone in this perspective. In this post, we are going to tell you about the pros and cons of a long sex duration Gap in detail. Please check out the complete without any delay ensuring that nothing gets missed.

Advantages of extended sex sessions

  •      Lower Stress

As we all know, having sex can result in eliminating the stress from the body. Getting indulged in longer sessions will ensure that you stay distracted from tensions that directly lower the stress levels.

  •      Boosting Libido

Involving in sex for a long time will give an improvement in your libido. There will be a better blood flow and elasticity for the upcoming session of love once you enjoy banging for extended periods.

  •      Lowering blood pressure

Another exciting benefit of having longer sex Gap is lowering blood pressure that can be very useful for the body. It is a remarkable benefit of enjoying sex that can be very beneficial in the long run.

  •      Burn calories

If you don’t know, sex is a very incredible way of exercise, and you may end up burning lots of calories in a longer sex session. It may not replace a treadmill, but still pretty useful for individuals who don’t get too much time for exercise.

Disadvantages of extended sex Gap

  • Sleepiness

It is a no-brainer that there is a lot of energy used during sex and extending it to extended levels will drain up your body for sure. There are chances that you may feel a little bit low after having sex for longer times.

  •      Sore Penis

Although it isn’t too common, still there are chances that some people may feel this side effect. There is a chance that you may feel a little bit soreness in the penis after extended sexual sessions.


As you can see that the benefits of extended lovemaking sessions are more than disadvantages. If you are one of those people who often enjoy such sessions, then we suggest you enjoy them in the way you like.

The stamina and its effects vary from one person to another so there is a chance that some may feel all these benefits while others don’t have them at all.

11 Unbelievable Facts About Sex And The City Movie

Sex and the City movies were released more than a decade ago, but still the funny conversations and comedy make us laugh. Are you still one of those girls who often yourself as Miranda, Samantha, Carrie, or Charlotte? Everyone loves to hear about the characters of this amazing movie & TV series. It is one of the most enjoyable series that we can still watch calmly with great affection and laugh for sure.
In this post, we are going to let you relive the world of this classic series by mentioning 11 impressive facts about Sex and the City Movie. Let’s check out each of them and have some laughs.

Tie Dye Maxi Dress

Do you know the Tie Dye Maxi dress that Carrie wore in the scene with Mr. Big sent accidentally to Mexico for a photo shoot? The directors sent a crew member especially to Mexico for taking it back to New York for the shoot.

Rented Clock

The avid lovers of Sex and the City must have noticed the clock beside the bed of Carrie. You will be surprised to know that it was actually rented from a local store. However, the producers found the same model when the clock owner increases the rental price for the next shoot.

Real Fire Drill

During the filming of the “I curse the day you were born” scene, a fire drill was taking at the Catholic Girls School. Due to this, there were lots of teenagers came out of the building saying “We Love you Mr. Big”.

Indian Cab Driver

The Indian cab driver that featured during the fight between Carrie and Miranda in front of Carrie’s home was the same used in the “Up the Butt” scene. We bet most individuals might not realize about it much.

Pink & Blue Tie

There were two ties in the wardrobe of Patricia Field having pink and blue color ready for Harry. The choice depends on whether it was a boy or a girl. Field only knows it was a girl just a few minutes before the beginning of the scene.

Ending Song

How many of you love the song that featured at the end of the film? Can you guess who the singer of this melodious song is? Well, she is one and only Jennifer Hudson who has given voice to numerous amazing songs.

Audience Love for Steve

The audience loved the character of Steve pretty much. Due to this, the directors receive tons of emails that request there shouldn’t any bad happen to Steve. However, they think differently and let Steve do something bad.


Sex and the City will always remain an integral part of viewers who have watched its TV series and movies while growing up. However, it is pretty assured that most of us must have been unaware of the facts mentioned in the post. We believe that you must have feel delighted after knowing them.

How Wet Is Too Wet?

As much as I love learning about the topics that I write about, I always find myself getting into trouble for voicing the information in my habitual dry, crude, straight to the point kind of way. So, don’t think this will be any different, because when it comes to vagina’s well I am going to tell you like it is, plus I love trouble ;)

In the last year, I have gotten several emails, one in particular that stated “I had to write about this topic.”  How wet is too wet? The simple answer is “I don’t know!” The truth is that there is no easy way to explain wetness (vaginal lubrication). Our vaginas are like an onion; there are multiple layers each one just as delicate and intricate as the other to make a beautiful yet complicated organ.

You can’t control how wet you get and honestly, I am not always sure what the big concern is, but you can control the health you provide your vagina. A healthy vagina has an acidic pH balance to fight off infections which is provided by bacteria naturally found in our nether regions. Just like saliva cleans and lubricates our mouths, our vaginas work in a similar way, secreting fluids on a regular basis.

All women have discharge, however the amount, the color, and smell vary from woman to woman. Normal discharge may appear clear, cloudy white, and/or yellowish when dry on clothing. Normal discharge can change in appearance and consistency for various reasons including menstrual cycle, hormonal changes, emotional issues, nutrition, medication, and sexual arousal.

Signs that may indicate an infection are: discharge with itching, rash or soreness, persistent increasing discharge, burning on skin during urination, white clumpy discharge (like cottage cheese), and grey/ white or yellow/green discharge with a foul odor. Please seek medical attention or advice, if you have any additional concerns or may be experiencing these symptoms.

During sexual arousal, a woman has an increase in vaginal wetness, especially during the arousal phase. This is due to changes in blood flow and the clitoris dilating, which allows the whole area to become flushed. This increase in wetness has many purposes, one of which is to facilitate penetration and protect the vaginal wall (too little wetness can lead to painful sex).

However, some women I have come to find out are very embarrassed of “how wet” they get. They have asked me if it is a problem and how to fix it. When there is an excessive amount of wetness women fear they will not feel as “tight” or that it feel like they are urinating (female ejaculation). Whatever the reason feeling vulnerable during sex is uncomfortable and sometimes even disheartening.

There is nothing to be embarrassed about, the wetness experienced is just part of your body enjoying the moment, but I understand that this is easier said than done, so here are a few helpful tips:

• This first one is not my favorite, but I have read that you can take an antihistamine. Be mindful to not use one that make you drowsy, but basically this medication dries everything up including your vagina and allergies.

• Place a towel under your body to absorb extra moisture, and you can also have a cloth nearby that you can use for quick clean ups. You can also place a waterproof pad under a towel for additional protection to the bed.

• There are also some creams that can help, but there is not much proof that they work.

• Change your diet to a more vegetarian lifestyle, the cows and your vagina will benefit!

• Finally, there is the Konov Principle, which is bringing a conscious awareness to you vagina and visualizes the optimum and healthy amount of wetness. Like meditation, it needs to be practiced daily to be felt fully.

The best advice I have thought is from me as someone who has been in that situation is that there is only one solution… enjoy the moment and build the sexual goddess that is inside of you.

3 Advanced Oral Sex Techniques To Spice Up Oral Sex On Her

Oral sex not always has to be limited to oral pleasure, you can increase the chances of orgasms in your woman, as well as, going from simply orgasms to mind blowing orgasms using these 3 advanced oral sex techniques to spice up your oral sex:

1. Fingering

Your fingers are definitely the best accompaniments to oral sex.

There are so many more ways to pleasure your partner with your finger inside her and your tongue outside her!

But, before sticking your finger inside of her make sure you follow these two golden rules of fingering:

1. Make sure she is wet.

2. Whatever technique you use, make sure you do it slowly and gently unless she asks you otherwise.

Ok, now slide your finger in and out of her slowly and gently. You can keep your finger straight, or you can put a bit of a bend in it if you like to help reach the G-spot.

You can also use your finger to press on the walls of her vaginal canal or to go deep inside, depending on how your woman likes it.

One of the most popular fingering moves is to slide the tip of your finger in and out of her vaginal canal about ½ an inch – you can even move your fingertips in circles to trace the outer rim of her vagina.

Women love this because the first inch or so of the vagina is jam-packed with pleasure inducing nerves. You can twist your finger as you go in and out as well – this creates a wonderful sensation that carries throughout the entire vaginal canal.

Some women prefer two or three fingers, but contrary to popular belief, most women prefer only one finger. So, make sure to ask your partner what she prefers.

Please! Make sure your fingernails are clean and trimmed well with no hangnails. Hangnails and jagged fingernails can cause small cuts inside your partner’s vagina.

2. G-Spot stimulation

First of all, the G-spot is a small dime-to-quarter-sized bundle of nerves about two inches inside of the vaginal canal. It is a rough-feeling tissue located in the front wall of her vagina.

You can give a great orgasm to your woman by only stimulating her G-Spot, but the feeling of this type of orgasm differs greatly from a clitoral orgasm. So, to make things even better you can give her both types of orgasms at once!

It feels absolutely wonderful for a woman to be stimulated with a finger(s) in her G-Spot while being stimulate with a wet tongue on her clitoris, but it’s mind blowing when a man is able to give her a simultaneous orgasm in both places at the same time!

Now, the G-spot is fairly simple to find. Place the index or middle finger of your right hand inside her vaginal canal with your palm up. Gently make a “come here” motion with your finger, and that should pretty much do it.

Combine this technique with some of the clitoral stimulation techniques (with your tongue!) and your honey will be in heaven!

3. Using sex toys

Now, when you guys are ready to really spice oral sex up, that means…

It’s time to bring the toys baby! 🙂

Make sure your partner is comfortable with the idea.

If she’s not open to it yet, use a gentle approach to this because if your partner feels uncomfortable or pressured, she will not open her mind and body fully to cunnilingus and your efforts will be unsuccessful.

Hopefully your woman will be up for anything!… Eventually… So, you guys can take oral sex to the next level!

There are basically two kinds of toys you’ll choose from to spice up oral sex:

1. Toys that stay outside of the vaginal canal

The toys that stay outside the vulva are probably the best to start out with, especially if your partner or you are at all apprehensive about bringing toys into the bedroom.

This kind of toys usually offers some kind of vibration which feels wonderful in combination with long, soft strokes by a tongue!

Look for clitoral stimulation toys, you’ll find a great variety of those to choose from.

For toys that stimulate the clitoris, you can gently move them around the vulva first (never place them directly on the clitoris at first) and then move them into the clitoris when your partner is more aroused.

2. Toys that go inside the vaginal canal

The toys that go inside the vagina are usually for people who are more comfortable with the use of toys during sex.

These toys are generally phallic-shaped, and some are even made with silicone to directly resemble an erect penis. Other models of this type of toy are more simply designed (think bullet or dome shaped) and are sleeker.

There are many shapes and sizes, so it is important to choose one that both you and your partner are comfortable with. This type of toy can come with or without vibration, and with or without extra “pieces” that can stimulate the clitoris, other parts of the vulva and even her anus.

For toys that go inside the vaginal opening, you can use them just as though you would use your penis for intercourse. Be careful though! This must always be done gently, and you must take your cues from your partner or it could spell disaster.

Remember: Always to pay attention to every reaction that she gives you when you try something. ou can even ask her if she likes what you’re doing or not, or what she would like to experiment.

15 Best Sex Tips To Spice Sex Up!

Ladies! Go ahead and give them a try!…

I’ll bet these will spice up your sex life! 😉

1) The missionary style gets a bum rap a lot of times, but a little variety can really spice it up.

Ladies, try sticking your legs straight up and crossing them.

2) Find a large sturdy mirror, put it on the floor and make love doggie-style on top of it.

3) Use some of the champagne by pouring it between your legs for some fizzy stimulation. Invite your guy down for a drink.

4) Love swings have been used for centuries and have gotten rave reviews for their ease of use and the ability to try many different positions. The slight swinging motion can produce intense orgasms.

5) If you can undress in a sexy way or do a little striptease that will most probably excite your partner greatly.

Here are some tips:

• Look your partner in the eye

Do it in front of a full-length mirror

Touch yourself slowly and in places that bring you pleasure

Take things off piece by piece, very s-l-o-w-l-y

Caress your skin as you remove articles of clothing

Guys, make sure the socks come off first if you are the stripper

Take the underwear off last

6) Rocking chairs without arms can create wonderful sensations when she sits on top of his penis, and they gently rock together.

7) A mint in the mouth adds a wonderful sensation for oral sex.

8) You can tighten your vagina by using the muscle that stops the flow of urine midstream. Tighten for 5 to 30 seconds and work up to 20 reps. You can do this anywhere. Your guy will love you for it, and as an added bonus it will help prevent incontinence as you get older.

9) Help your guy to have a super orgasm by bringing him close to climax but stopping action before he goes over the top. Do this several times before you let him explode.

10) When giving your guy oral sex…

Wrap your lubricated hand around his penis and instead of stroking him in the same direction your mouth is going, move it in the opposite direction.

11) When your guy is about to climax (if you can’t tell, ask him to let you know), contract your vaginal muscles at a steady rhythm to intensify his pleasure.

12)Most guys are extremely turned on by watching their wife caress herself or even masturbate. It lets them know what feels good to her so they can try to do the same.

13) A device called a cock-ring vibrator helps the man sustain a much longer erection while the attached vibrator stimulates the clitoris and can help bring a woman to orgasm.

This is one of the best sex tips to spice up sex and prolong pleasure!

Give it a try!… He will love it… And you too! 😉

14) Women can contract their pelvic muscle and then their anal muscle in alternating sequence to build up their genital sensations.

15) While a woman needs to hear she is beautiful when making love, a man loves to hear you tell him how wonderful his penis is.

Compliment its thickness, hardness, length, smoothness, size of head, strong veins or whatever you enjoy about it.

Your man will looooove that!

Just remember… Only honest compliments!

There you have them!… These are some of the best sex tips in Michael’s book “500 Lovemaking Tips And Secrets”… But there are much more!

I chose to recommend you this e-book because it is by far the best collection of sex tips that I’ve found through my research.

This guide has a HUGE variety of GREAT sex tips, ideas, and techniques for you and your man to Spice Sex Up!

Here, Michael put together a very nice variety of tips for every aspect of a couple’s sex life. You’ll find tips and ideas for orgasms, oral sex, foreplay, romance, sex positions, anal sex, couple’s masturbation, sex toys, seduction… You name it!… He even tells you what NOT to do to ruin orgasms and sex!

Basically, it’s like having a “varied sex menu” that you can just grab anytime and pick up a new idea to spice up the night! 😉

Pretty cool guide to have to Spice Sex Up and avoid routine! Take a look at it here.Pretty cool